It’s no secret. Dating is hard. Sometimes, dating can be so exhausting and complicated that the idea of getting back out there is a turn off altogether – but how do you accomplish your goals of getting into that happy relationship if you don’t date?

So, you put yourself out there, and embrace the messiness of dating, and almost instantly remind yourself of why you perhaps stopped in the first place. It feels like a catch 22 right? Can’t win for losing…. Or can you?

Getting Hurt While Dating

I’m a firm believer that the first step at approaching any problem is to invest time into figuring out what the problem actually is, and why it is. This gives you an opportunity to approach your goal from a different angle, and this angle may lend itself to more productive results.

The answer to why dating is hard is actually pretty simple. I think Usher explained it best – you’re “Caught Up”, which is me oversimplifying the reality that you’ve allowed something you want and/or like cause you to dismiss non-negotiable standards in dating.

Women and men typically get caught up in different things, but both things center on whatever you’re attracted to and/or value. It’s common jswipe dating for men to get caught up in their physical attraction towards their partners, while although this is important for women as well, women more so end up getting caught up in their emotional attraction towards their partners, or how someone ends up making them feel. Whatever sparks you, the point is, usually when that match is lit? The dancing flame becomes the distraction that causes you to dismiss a lot of the signs that could have saved you from being disappointed at the end. (suite…)